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WEDDING TIP: Why "Nice" Girls Throw Away Wedding Dollars...

By Stephi Stewart, author "Fire Your Wedding Planner!"

Brides often ask me to explain to them
specifically how I saved over $10,000 off
my own wedding costs and what I always
communicate is this...

UNLESS you adopt "unrealistic expectations"
and an "unstoppable" attitude, no one special
technique is going to help you achieve a "Dream
Wedding on a Budget"...

In my book and newsletters, I assert over and
over again that "It's your money, so act like it!"
and I'd like to explain what I mean by this...

First of all, do you consider yourself a NICE GIRL?

Well I'm sorry to tell you that nice girls
usually end up THROWING AWAY hard earned wedding
dollars and here's why...

Most of us women are taught from a very young age
to be "nice" appeasing little girls.

The problem is that when we grow up, many of us
still behave this way, putting other's needs
BEFORE our own, avoiding conflict whenever
possible and being less than assertive in
situations where it would be in our best interest
to be so.

Now don't get me wrong, "being nice" is a
wonderful asset for making friends, but in
business "nice girls" get walked all over...

And here's a newsflash: planning a wedding is
all about business as you need to interview,
hire, sign contracts, manage people etc. All
qualities that require a savvy business acumen.

Unfortunately, if you're a "nice girl" it's likely
that you fall into the category "naive" bride and
what this equates to for many aggressive wedding
vendors is a big "take advantage of me" sign
written all over you!

Now I'm certainly not professing you should be
"mean" or "bitchy" either because "mean" girls
make enemies and get stabbed in the back.

What I am professing, based on my experience both
in the fashion industry and with coaching brides,
is this: a woman who is "Nice and Assertive"
commands a magic touch which leads to far greater
results than the average "nice" girl will ever
achieve... and she is usually extremely well
liked (and respected) too!

Hmmm...something to think about.

So let me compare and contrast plain old "nice"
vs. this magic "nice and assertive" approach:

First, let's say you're being a "nice" girl.

You meet with a wedding photographer who tells you
that his price is X, that he keeps the negatives,
charges you X for reprints etc.

Now being a "nice" girl you simply say, "Okay"
I guess this is how things work with wedding
photographers and I certainly don't want to
create any conflict because I want him to think
I'm nice, so I guess I'll just have to accept
his terms... after all, they are printed on his
brochure."

Wrong, wrong, wrong!

You must understand that everything is negotiable
and you never should pay more than you have to
for anything!

The only thing you'll get out of the previous
exchange is the emotional confirmation that you're
a nice girl and a big fat surprise bill when you
see how much the reprints are going to cost you
after your wedding!

Bottom line: You better be rich, if you're going
to be nice!

Now on the other hand, let's say you're being a
"nice and assertive" girl and you're meeting with
this same photographer.

You know that YOU'RE IN CHARGE because you're the
one spending the money, so you "tell" the
photographer that you really like his work (being
nice), but that if he wants your business, he's
going to have to agree to YOUR TERMS which
include giving you the negatives (being assertive).

Of course, you're always ready to "walk" if the
photographer isn't willing to meet your needs,
because you won't settle for anything less and
know you'll eventually find a capable photographer
who will indeed meet your expectations.

If you're thinking this sounds too scary, let me
tell you it's really not!

I've taught so many women how to do this and not
only is it far easier than you'd ever imagine to
simply "negotiate", but it's also fun!

Just imagine how great you'll feel each time you
save a few hundred, or even a few thousand dollars
simply by communicating to these vendors at an
unconscious level that you're in charge, not them!

I mean, if you want to be a nice girl and get
"average" results, be my guest...

But if you want to learn more about how to
negotiate like a goddess and get OUTSTANDING
results like I did, I invite you to check out my
ebook which teaches in much more detail how to
successfully plan and achieve your dream wedding
on a budget (revealing all the techniques I
personally used to save over $10,000 off my own
wedding expenses).

* Make sure to pay special attention to Part 3 of
my book, titled: "Never Get Taken - Essential New
Rules For The Modern Bride."

Go here to download your copy now:

http://www.fireyourweddingplanner.com

Your friend,

- Stephi